I feel that I cannot continue writing about the goddess within without taking some moments to reflect on the political climate and happenings of this past week. For, I know there are many women in this country that are fearful and in shock that a candidate who has said and done the vile things he has towards women, minorities, Muslims, and the LGBTQ community can be elected as the next President of the United States.
In this past week, after Donald Trump became our nation’s next President-elect, we have seen a maelstrom of anger-fueled posts on social media, articles about the inanity of the political machine, and a lot of fear circulating throughout the internet, media, and streets. I myself have had many a conversation about what the results of this past election might mean for the welfare of our country (ok, that is a bit of an understatement), have had moments of depression, and found myself seething to the bone, wondering how hate, misogyny, racism, and xenophobia can win over a significant amount of our country’s population. I think you can guess by now that I was in no way, shape, or form a Trump supporter. Considering this is a blog dedicated to female empowerment, I will focus on the unfair treatment of women that exist not just in politics, but in every corner of our society. In the aftermath of what I consider a terrifying election and the hateful frenzy that fueled it, I want to take time to offer a semblance of my thoughts about women standing in solidarity and provide a brief message of hope. Yes, I want to extend a hand of encouragement to all the women who feel demeaned, discouraged, and like their bodies and minds are a mere ploy for male power in a hyper-masculinized and gender-politicized culture. I believe that this culture is harmful not only to the plight of women, but also to marginalized populations, races, religions, and men who defy the standardized ideal of masculinity.
I believe that now is the time more than ever for the women in this country and the men that support them to rise up in unity. There is a fire burning through the walls of gender equality. Although women have made significant strides in the past century, there is still much work to be done. For, the major institutions in this country, including politics and the media, are still overwhelmingly run by men like Julian Assange who wish to keep females below the power threshold. However, ladies, let me tell you that your voice, mind, and soul DO matter. Yes, our nation elected a man to Presidency that has spewed incredulous messages of hate towards not only women, but also minorities, immigrants, the LGBTQ community, and anyone and everyone that was not in his playing field. This leaves me in fear and disgust as much as anyone who was opposed to the Trump-isms that drove the President-elect’s platform for his campaign. However, as much as I am in shock and terror over Donald Trump’s election, I also know that this is not the time to give up hope for the future and let go of all the progress women and men have made in equal rights campaigns in the last century, from the suffragette movement in the 1920’s to bra-burning in the 1970’s to the present day, in which women are assuming some of the most powerful positions in the nation and world. So, I propose that instead of viewing these next, probably very long and grueling, four years as the end all to our rights and freedoms as women, let us use our collective anger towards the misogyny that pervades our political system to invigorate us to act against the patriarchal figures that attempt to discourage female empowerment. However, we cannot do this with hate in our hearts. For, we have witnessed time and time again in the history of our nation and the world that in the end, love can and does win. At this point, we cannot focus on Trump-supporters versus Hillary-supporters or divide ourselves from those who voted third-party in the 2016 Presidential election. For empowerment is meaningless unless it extends itself to all women and men. Furthermore, let all those who support gender equality act in love against the vitriolic pledges of hatred we witnessed not only in this most recent Presidential campaign, but those that have existed within the context of our culture for hundreds of years. Women, let us stand up in solidarity with the power of our voices and speak not just for fellow females, but for humanity as a whole. For, sexism impacts the dignity of all human beings by demeaning a part of the whole. In other words, human dignity is threatened any time a group of people claims superiority over the other. Dignity cannot be found in the context of contempt. Ugly discrimination is nothing but a path to superiority for one specific group of people- – a path that leaves narrow-mindedness the only option when power is perceived to be threatened. At the heart of misogyny is a pervasive, falsified, and socially-constructed version of masculinity: one in which the ideal male is portrayed as one who always has the upper hand in every and any situation. This version of masculinity has an impact not only on females, but also on men who either do not believe in or wish to live according to this male standard.
Today, in the hyper-masculine Western world, one run on competitiveness and power-seeking, women in the most influential positions are subjected to harsh and unfair criticisms of their looks and incendiary attacks on their characters. All we need to do is simply look at the abject vitriol Hilary Clinton was subjected to in the past campaign, as she was called a variety of ugly and demeaning names, degraded for how she looks, and portrayed as an evil threat to the solidarity and progress of this country. I believe that this was done so simply because she is a powerful woman. All we need to do is look at the media’s past portrayal of her and hear comments about her hair, makeup, and pantsuits, rather than her qualifications and passion for the work she has dedicated her life to. All we need to do is look at the super television star her opponent, Donald Trump, was turned into, despite his contemptuous views and actions against any group of people that were not rich white males, to understand that there is something seriously wrong with how our country enacts and gives attention to equal rights. Why is this? I believe it is because men have been cultured in this country to remain stoic and dominating, whether that be in politics, business, or personal relationships. It seems that when a female has the audacity to shift the tide and balance-out this masculinized culture, she immediately is perceived as a threat to the stability of male power and becomes the target of attack. And, I believe that because we live in an appearance and diet-focused society, a woman’s looks, temperament, and character become the focus of discussion when her success and qualifications are simply too much for her male opponents to counter.
Now, please do not misunderstand me. I am not in any way saying that all men are vicious, violent, dominating, and sexist. In fact, I think the majority of men in our culture are good-intentioned and are sensitive to and advocate for the plight of women. Personally, I know many of these men. However, there remains this subset of men who are rooted in traditional and outdated values of gender expectations and thus, continue to view and treat women as second-class citizens who are worthy of a lecture more than they are equality and respect. Unfortunately, many of these men remain at the top tiers of industry, the media, advertising, Wall Street, law, and politics. This is how and why the gender gap remains in a very precarious position and why the fight to close it must go on with more fervor than before.
However, ladies, I do not want to discourage you. After all, I did promise a message of hope. We have the power of voice. We can let our feminine powers of perseverance, nurture, love, and intuition be the forces that carry us through the difficult moments of gender inequality. Let these be the values that guide us towards the common goal of equality, fairness, and unbiased representation of females of all shapes, sizes, characters, and colors. For, these are the qualities of the goddess within every woman that can unify us to take action, no matter if you were a Trump, Bernie, Hillary, or third-party voter.
So, next time us women hear a misogynist attack on us for our body shape, looks, or other qualities, let your self-love allow you to speak up. Next time we hear a woman in a position of power demeaned for her gender, let all women speak in unity louder than the voice of hate. Next time you hear a man make an inappropriate sexualized comment, clarify that you are not an object of prey and remain confident in it. Let us rise above the unrealistic beauty standards that bleed through every corner of advertising. Let us join in unity to say we will continue to stand tall despite ugly name calling. And most of all, let us use this vulnerable time in our nation as the fuel to re-awaken and re-define our fight for equality.
I do not want to undermine the significant strides that women have made in this country. Without them, I would not even be able to write this post. There are many (Hillary Clinton, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, and Michelle Obama just to name a few) that are pushing the boundaries and sharing their vision for harmony in the nation and world, all the while encouraging other women and girls to do the same. Thus, we cannot remain frozen and fixated on the party lines that have seemingly divided our country and allow them to create partisanship between women. Trust me, I am angry, hurt, and saddened by the results of this election because they are suggestive of the fact that the fight against bigotry and sexism have taken a back seat to hyper-sensationalized fear. However, let us women and men that stand for love and equality use this tidal wave of scary politics to turn our concern about misogyny, sexism, racism, homophobia, and hate into a call to take action against ideologies that are truly a threat to humanity. Onward we must go to fight the good fight and release our nation from the fear-mongering that has perpetuated discrimination and inequality. We must go with compassion in our hearts and passion in our souls.